Woman: Her name is Ramya (name changed). She has four brothers and one sister. Age 35. Due to being fat, she did not get married until she got pregnant. She made many attempts to lose weight. In the end, there was some success. She was plump though. All siblings are married. They also have families. As Ramya was fat, she did not get many marriages. Even if the boys came, they would leave with some kind of crookedness. Ramya used to feel sad as relationships came and went like this. Her heart yearned for love. Age burns with desires. As she was chubby.. the family members used to look at it. As a result there was a loneliness around her. “Is it my fault to be born fat?, why am I not having relationships? Do I have to be alone like this forever?, My siblings have families. Am I not having sex?” Ramya was always troubled by such questions.
After many days like this, Ramya got a relationship. A 40-year-old man agreed to marry her. With this, Ramya took a deep breath. Hammayya said that she is getting married to me too. The family members celebrated the engagement of both of them. After that was done, Ramya went near to talk to her future husband. As there were only two of them, she tried to kiss. But, he pushed her away. But she suddenly got confused. After that she calmed down and told herself that she was too shy for him. She also scolded him for being in a hurry. Even though all this was happening, he only looked at the ground. After that, even if she spoke on the phone, he would not respond that much. All this was a problem for Ramya. But he remembers his fat body and bears all this. After some time Ramya got married to him. After the wedding, the Vratas and other functions are over. Seeing a good moment, Ramya's parents arranged for a first night for Ramya and her husband. That night she went into the room dressed in white clothes, her head full of jasmine flowers and a glass of milk in her hand. The whole room was filled with the fragrance of flowers. So many thoughts in Ramya's mind.. if she takes him near.. she wants to be captive in his embrace, he wants to share her body.. her body and her mind are wandering with various desires. Ramya was shocked to see her husband fast asleep on the bed. As he did not wake up no matter how much she woke up, she kept crying that whole night. The next day, when she asked her husband about the same thing, he replied that he was not feeling well. Thus many nights passed in vain. When Ramya tells this to her mother-in-law, she takes her son back. This made Ramya's mind more depressed.
Thus all her dreams began to merge one by one in the womb of time. At least Ramya is not touched by her husband. He did not move much even though she teased him all night. She got suspicious and took her to the doctor. But the doctors said that he is impotent. Ramya later came to know that the doctors had told his parents about this before the marriage. But, they cheated her without telling her that. This made Ramya cry heartbroken. Yet he didn't budge a bit. He didn't even show remorse in front of Ramya.
In fact, in our society, women are put under a magnifying glass even if they make a small mistake. If there is a mistake on the part of the same man, they just ignore it. When Ramya told this to her parents, they begged her not to say it because the family would be dishonoured. Relatives gave free advice that “sex is not the only important thing in life.. When he is not willing to work for it, you can adopt orphans”. As for Ramya's husband.. “I have no problem with whomever you are. I won't stop it. I don't really care if I have children. She said that they don't have anyone named after my family” and her mind was more deeply disturbed. Not only that, Ramya fell on his feet and cried. He asked not to divorce.
After all these thoughts, Ramya came out saying that it is not right for her husband to stay at home. Parents did not agree to go to the birth house. Finally, with the help of her friends, she joined a hostel. Work life started. After a few days, she applied for divorce. But here, on behalf of her husband, they accused her of having an extra-marital affair. Her husband promoted in various ways. This matter went to court. As a result, Ramya asked her husband to undergo medical tests.. the court issued orders. Eventually she won in court. After three years, she was granted a divorce. In this order, many men in the member society tried to get close to her. But no one agreed to stay with her for long. Ramya is still alone. Now she is 40 years old. Many people have judged her married life and the difficulties she faced in many ways. But no one understood her mind. Don't even understand anymore..
(Recently this was the experience of a woman in a southern state. Keeping her personal privacy in mind, we have made it literal. Her name has also been changed)
